This has been a great thread, and very pertinent to my own situation.
Much of it is the same, but in our situation my wife DOES have a small group of genuinely nice friends, which seems to balance out the non loving judgementaltards.
Still, a lot of the advice here applies, best of luck bu2b, to both of us...
oops, we're not supposed to say 'luck' are we!? F#@&.